1. Introduction to a spiritual perspective on giving and receiving gifts

Gift-giving and receiving is something that all of us indulge in regardless of culture. While we may have given and received gifts all our lives, we may not be fully aware of the spiritual implications of giving and receiving gifts. In this article, we explain the various aspects of giving and receiving gifts from a spiritual perspective.

2. What happens at a spiritual level when we give or receive gifts?

The act of giving helps to think of others. When we think of others and put them ahead of ourselves we reduce our thoughts about ourselves and thereby our ego. This is especially so if the act is done without expectations. Similarly when we accept gifts with genuine gratitude irrespective of whether we like it or not, we reduce thoughts about ourselves and thereby our ego. This is a spiritual benefit of giving and receiving.

However as per the spiritual law of Karma, when we give or accept gifts

We are either creating or settling give-and-take accounts with the other person.
We incur either merits or demerits depending on the type of gift we are giving and the intention behind it.

The spiritual law of Karma is explained in the article on Destiny and the rule of Give-and-take.

The implications of accruing a ‘give-and-take’ account whether positive or negative and merit/demerit are that they keep us in the cycle of birth and death. So in other words if one has accrued a merit by giving a gift, one has to receive the same amount of happiness in either this birth or the next from that person. Until we complete all our accumulated account we cannot escape from the cycle of birth and death and achieve the true purpose of our lives.

2.1 Is it possible not to create a give-and-take account or a merit/demerit when giving or receiving gifts?

Yes it is possible not to create a give-and-take account or a merit/demerit when exchanging gifts.

We all have the God principle within us. This is known as the Soul. When we are immersed in this realisation and actively experience the God within us then any action done by us in this state does not incur a give-and-take account or a merit/demerit.
If our chanting of the ‘Name of God’ is continuous and of the highest order qualitatively then again no account or a merit/demerit is created regardless of any action we do.
When we give or receive a gift with the spiritual emotion that the God within us is giving or receiving a gift to / from the God within the recipient / giver of the gift respectively.
When we exchange gifts without expectations.

At a practical level however to experience the above, all the time is very difficult for almost all people. As a result in almost all cases a give-and-take account is created or completed when we give/receive a gift.

3. What type of gift should one choose?

However due to social obligations, we still need to give gifts even though we know that a give-and-take account is created and a merit/demerit is accrued. From a spiritual perspective the following are some of the things we can keep in mind while choosing gifts.

The gift of knowledge: Gifts that provide knowledge about Spirituality and spiritual practice are of the highest value as a gift that we can give our loved ones. (It’s important that the knowledge conform to the 5 basic principles of spiritual practice.) The following chart shows the value of this type of gift compared to other types.

Type of Gift	Value in terms of time to the recipient
Flowers	A few hours
Food stuff (chocolates, cakes, etc.)	A few days
Clothes	A few months
Electronic items	A few years
Jewellery	Many years
Book containing spiritual knowledge	This birth and subsequent births

Saattvik gift versus unsaattvik gifts: It is always best to give a saattvik gift. This is because it assists the person at a spiritual level by increasing the saattviktaa of the person. Saattvik gifts are like books on Spirituality, spiritual healing tools such as SSRF incense sticks, prayer beads made of a saattvik substance, compact disc containing chants of the Name of God. Gifts that are saattvik generally increase a person’s introspective nature which is necessary for spiritual growth. Gifts that are raajasik and taamasik generally increase a person’s focus on the outside world and away from any contemplation on spiritual growth.

Even the wrapping and decoration that is used in gifts can increase the saattvik or taamasik nature of the gift. For example:

With regards to colour of the wrapping paper
- yellows, whites, blues are more saattvik
- reds, pinks and browns would be raajasik
- greens and reds would be raja-tama
- blacks and greys would be taamasik
With regards to texture of paper used, natural materials would be more saattvik as opposed to synthetic materials
With regards to decorations, in the pictures below we show you two designs of decorations that are used on gifts. Have a look at each for a minute and see how you feel and which decoration you feel is more saattvik. The answer is given at the end of this article.

Please refer to the section on – The three subtle basic components and our lifestyle

4. What determines the volume of the give-and-take account?

The main aspect that determines the give-and-take account created between the person giving a gift and the recipient is the proportion of wealth that a person gives away to another.

The following diagram describes how it is the proportion of wealth or oneself that one gives as a gift that determines the volume of the give-and-take account.

For almost all of us, as we do not have access to advanced sixth sense, we never know if we are creating an account or settling one. Hence we need to focus more on the merits or demerits aspects. Merits and demerits incurred depend on two main aspects:

The intention behind giving a gift:
If the intention behind giving a gift is for the other person’s spiritual growth, then no give-and-take account is created. An example of this kind of gift would be a book on Spirituality that conforms to the six basic principles of spiritual practice that contributes directly to spiritual growth. Any other intention would result in a give-and-take account being created or settled. Here no merit or demerit is incurred. However one would grow spiritually by giving such a gift.
The type of gift given:

Depending on the type of gift, i.e. whether it is saattvik, raajasik or taamasik, the person giving a gift incurs merit or demerit. This is apart from whether a give-and-take account is being created or settled by giving the gift.

Saattvik gifts such as a saattvik picture of a deity that does not necessarily contribute to spiritual growth result in merits being incurred. This is because unlike a book on Spirituality, a picture of a deity cannot provide one with direction about his spiritual practice and the progressive steps to be taken thereafter for spiritual growth. On a relative scale this would be +30.
Raajasik gifts such as clothes, perfumes, novels, electronic games, etc. incur demerits. On a relative scale this would incur a demerit of -10.
Taamasik gifts such as alcohol, heavy metal music, etc. would incur demerits. On a relative scale this would incur a demerit of -30.

Refer to the article on give-and-take and merits and demerits – coming soon.

5. What is the highest gift?

The highest gift that a person can be given is by God. This is the gift of life wherein the person gets the opportunity to do spiritual practice (as per the 5 basic principles) and gets access to grace of God.

From a seeker’s perspective the highest gift is the Guru’s (Spiritual Master) grace as it takes him ahead on the path of God-realisation that is his basic purpose of life.

Answer to the subtle experiment on the bow: Decoration A is more saattvik than Decoration B