Table of Contents
- 1. Introduction to a spiritual perspective on giving and receiving gifts
- 2. What happens at a spiritual level when we give or receive gifts?
- 3. What type of gift should one choose to give?
- 4. What determines the volume of the give-and-take account?
- 5. What is the highest gift?
1. Introduction to a spiritual perspective on giving and receiving gifts
Gift-giving and receiving is something that all of us indulge in regardless of culture. While we may have given and received gifts all our lives, we may not be fully aware of the spiritual implications of giving and receiving gifts. In this article, we explain the various aspects of giving and receiving gifts, from a spiritual perspective.
2. What happens at a spiritual level when we give or receive gifts?
The act of giving helps to think of others. When we think of others and put them ahead of ourselves, we reduce our thoughts about ourselves and thereby our ego. This is especially so if the act is done without expectations. Similarly, when we accept gifts with genuine gratitude irrespective of whether we like it or not, we reduce thoughts about ourselves and thereby our ego. This is a spiritual benefit of giving and receiving.
However, as per the spiritual law of Karma, when we give or accept gifts:
We are either creating or settling give-and-take accounts with the other person.
We incur either merits or demerits, depending on the type of gift we are giving and the intention behind it.
The spiritual law of Karma is explained in the article on Destiny and the rule of give-and-take.
The implication of accruing a ‘give-and-take’ account, whether positive or negative and merit/demerit, is that it keeps us in the cycle of birth and death. So, in other words if one has accrued a merit by giving a gift, one has to receive the same amount of happiness in either this birth or the next from that person. Until we complete all our accumulated account, we cannot escape from the cycle of birth and death and achieve the true purpose of our lives.
2.1 Is it possible not to create a give-and-take account or a merit/demerit when receiving or giving gifts?
Yes, it is possible not to create a give-and-take account or a merit/demerit when exchanging gifts.
We all have the God principle within us. This is known as the Soul. When we are immersed in this realisation and actively experience the God within us then any action done by us in this state does not incur a give-and-take account or a merit/demerit.
If our chanting of the ‘Name of God’ is continuous and of the highest order qualitatively then again, no account or a merit/demerit is created, regardless of any action we do.
When we give or receive a gift with the spiritual emotion that the God within us is giving or receiving a gift to/from the God within the recipient/giver of the gift respectively.
When we exchange gifts without expectations.
At a practical level however, to experience the above all the time is very difficult for almost all people. As a result, in almost all cases a give-and-take account is created or completed when we give/receive a gift.
3. What type of gift should one choose to give?
However, due to social obligations, we still need to give gifts even though we know that a give-and-take account is created and a merit/demerit is accrued. From a spiritual perspective, the following are some of the things we can keep in mind while choosing gifts.
The gift of knowledge: Gifts that provide knowledge about Spirituality and spiritual practice, are of the highest value as a gift that we can give our loved ones. (It’s important that the knowledge conform to the 6 basic principles of spiritual practice). The following chart shows the value of this type of gift compared to other types.
Type of Gift
Value in terms of time to the recipient
A few hours
Food stuff (chocolates, cakes etc.)
A few days
A few months
A few years
Book containing spiritual knowledge
This birth and subsequent births
Sāttvik gift versus unsattvik gifts: It is always best to give a sattvik gift. This is because it assists the person at a spiritual level by increasing the sattvikta of the person. Sattvik gifts are like books on Spirituality, spiritual healing tools such as SSRF incense sticks, prayer beads made of a sattvik substance, compact disc containing chants of the Name of God. Gifts that are sattvik generally increase a person’s introspective nature which is necessary for spiritual growth. Gifts that are rājasik and tāmasik generally increase a person’s focus on the outside world and away from any contemplation on spiritual growth.
Even the wrapping and decoration that is used in gifts can increase the sattvik or tamasik nature of the gift. For example:
With regards to colour of the wrapping paper
yellows, whites, blues are more sattvik
reds, pinks and browns would be rajasik
greens and reds would be Raja-Tama
blacks and greys would be tamasik
With regard to texture of paper used, natural materials would be more sattvik, as opposed to synthetic materials
With regard to decorations, in the pictures below we show you two designs of decorations that are used on gifts. Have a look at each for a minute and see how you feel and which decoration you feel is more sattvik. The answer is given at the end of this article.
Please refer to the section on – The three subtle basic components and our lifestyle
4. What determines the volume of the give-and-take account?
The main aspect that determines the give-and-take account created between the person giving a gift and the recipient, is the proportion of wealth that a person gives away to another.
The following diagram describes how it is the proportion of wealth of oneself that one gives as a gift, that determines the volume of the give-and-take account.
For almost all of us, as we do not have access to advanced sixth sense, we never know if we are creating an account or settling one. Hence, we need to focus more on the merits or demerits aspects. Merits and demerits incurred depend on two main aspects:
Depending on the type of gift, i.e. whether it is sattvik, rajasik or tamasik, the person giving a gift incurs merit or demerit. This is apart from whether a give-and-take account is being created or settled by giving the gift.
- The intention behind giving a gift:
If the intention behind giving a gift is for the other person’s spiritual growth, then no give-and-take account is created. An example of this kind of gift would be a book on Spirituality that conforms to the six basic principles of spiritual practice that contributes directly to spiritual growth. Any other intention would result in a give-and-take account being created or settled. Here, no merit or demerit is incurred. However, one would grow spiritually by giving such a gift.
- The type of gift given:
Sattvik gifts such as a sattvik picture of a Deity that does not necessarily contribute to spiritual growth, result in merits being incurred. This is because unlike a book on Spirituality, a picture of a Deity cannot provide one with direction about his spiritual practice and the progressive steps to be taken thereafter for spiritual growth. On a relative scale, this would be +30.
Rajasik gifts such as clothes, perfumes, novels, electronic games, etc. incur demerits. On a relative scale, this would incur a demerit of -10.
Tamasik gifts such as alcohol, heavy metal music, etc. would incur demerits. On a relative scale, this would incur a demerit of -30.
5. What is the highest gift?
The highest gift that a person can be given is by God. This is the gift of life wherein the person gets the opportunity to do spiritual practice (as per the 6 basic principles) and gets access to the grace of God.
Answer to the subtle-experiment on the bow: Decoration A is more sattvik than Decoration B