Who do we have a give-and-take account with?

We generally have the highest give-and-take account with the people we are closest to and with our family members.

Please read the article on what is a give-and-take account.

If we were to consider all the give-and-take accounts we have in our lifetime with the people that we know, then who would be the people with whom we have the greatest give-and-take account with? The following table is a breakdown of the relative intensity of this account across our various relationships:

Give-and-take account with:

%

Spouse

27

Parents – child relation

25

Siblings

9

Close friends

9

People romantically involved

9

Colleagues

9

Other relatives

4

Other acquaintances (neighbours, friends and associates)

4

Others

4

Totals

100.0

Our spiritual research has shown that generally we have the highest give-and-take account with our spouse. We have known our spouse in a previous lifetime and the reason we come together in a particular lifetime is primarily to settle an outstanding give-and-take account from a previous or series of previous lifetimes. Although many people believe that we marry the person of our choosing, this is simply not true. Marriage is 100% destined and so are all the other significant relationships in our lives, such as with our father, mother and siblings. So when we say that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder we are not far from the truth. While outwardly it may appear that a couple is in love and that is the reason why they are together, according to the science of Spirituality, they are together primarily to settle a give-and-take account.