From spiritual research, we have found that the following factors contribute to the relationship compatibility between two people. We have separated the factors according to whether the couples are active seekers of God or not.
| Factors affecting relationship compatibility | Seekers | Non-seekers |
|---|---|---|
| Physical 1 |
5%
|
5%
|
| Psychological |
8%
|
8%
|
| Likes and dislikes |
2%
|
2%
|
| Temperamental characteristics |
2%
|
2%
|
| Personality defects |
2%
|
2%
|
| Ego 2 |
2%
|
2%
|
| Intellectual |
2%
|
2%
|
| Spiritual |
85%
|
85%
|
| Difference in spiritual levels |
5%
|
0%
|
| Path of spiritual practice |
10%
|
0%
|
| A focus on individual spiritual practice by one, while the other focuses on spiritual practice for the sake of society |
8%
|
0%
|
| Desire for spiritual growth |
2%
|
0%
|
| Negative energy attacks |
10%
|
5%
|
| Ancestors |
10%
|
10%
|
| Destiny and the give-and-take account |
30%
|
50%
|
| Miscellaneous (place, region) |
10%
|
20%
|
| Total |
100%
|
100%
|
Footnotes (based on the numbers in red in the table above):
1. By ‘physical,’ not only the physical looks of the couple/persons involved are a factor, but also physical issues such as the distance separating a couple, illnesses, differences in sexual drive or preferences, etc. that can affect compatibility are considered.
2. Though the ego appears to contribute only 2%, we have to keep in mind that many of the other causes of differences are in fact manifestations of ego.
The reasons behind why a marriage is successful or not is also apparent from the chart above. As you can see the relationship compatibility between two people is primarily dependent on factors beyond the understanding of the five senses, mind and intellect, i.e. the spiritual factors, in particular the give-and-take account between them. Physical looks and being a good match psychologically account for only 13% of the compatibility between two people.
